When you've lost that lovin' feelin'

Well it's that time of the year, when "Love" is in the air. Pick up a newspaper to read, it's there. Turn on the TV and it's there too. Tune into the radio and yes there is more of it there. After all it is Valentine's - the most special time of the year for lovers. I had often wondered what the big deal about this particular day of the year was, until I fell in love. St.Valentine had gained new found respect in my mind and the fourteenth of February went straight into my list of most special days in a year. It's amazing how love changes one's perspective in a single sweep. Those "Anti-Valentine's" and "I am proud to be single" years of my life had started to feel like they were ages ago. Being in love is a magical feeling. Wish I could put that down in words, but it simply is inexplicable. All is well till that magic of love is alive. But what happens when the magic fades away? What happens when the magic suddenly stops? What happens when one loses that loving feeling?

Fortunate are those who get to spend their lifetimes with the ones they love, but for the less fortunate it is as Lord Tennyson wrote "Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all". For the fortunate ones it's all about keeping the magic alive at all times, and for the less fortunate ones it's all about rediscovering the magic and not losing faith in the magic. Many a times, I have seen people lose faith in love after a failed relationship. But is love to be blamed for a relationship that did not work out? Most often, relationships fail, not because of the lack of love, but because people let love take a backseat and let their personal differences and egos take over. Had love been above all, the relationship wouldn't have failed. 

Any day is a good day to give love a chance, but Valentine's day is just the perfect occasion to give love a chance. So if you are in love, take some time out to be with your loved one, to tell them how special they are and it doesn't hurt to get them a nice little present too. If you are among those waiting to fall in love, step out, look out and speak out when you find the right one. And yes for the heart-broken ones, I know it is not easy to get through a Valentine's day without thinking about that lost love of yours, but you deserve to give yourselves another chance at love. Just because someone broke your heart, doesn't mean that you have to become all morose and bitter about love and turn into an "Anti-Valentine". This Valentine's keep you heart and mind open and you never know when love may find you again. 

But if you are among those who are not yet ready to move on (strictly only for those who cherish the memories of lost love, and not for those who are saddened by it), then that's what movies and music are there for. Get your collection of the best romantic movies and songs ready before the V-Day and you're good to go. There is nothing like listening to that favorite love song of yours, immersed in the thoughts of that long lost love on a Valentine's day. And if someone said "Move On", tell them, "Maybe some other day, for now this feels good."

As I get my playlist and movies for the day ready, I just wanted to wish everyone a very happy Valentine's day. Though I believe that love is something that needs to be celebrated every day of the year, every moment of our lives, for now let's just try and make the best out of the day of love by loving unconditionally not just our loved ones, but everyone in this world. Happy Valentine's Day!     

Ringing in The New Year with 'Hope'

There are three things that I like about New Year's - the countdown to the New Year's eve, the New Year's eve and the first day of the New Year. If it is the festive spirit of Christmas and a Birthday just two days prior to New Year's eve that makes the countdown so special for me, it is the feeling of letting go of the things of the past and an anticipation of the times to come that makes New Year's eve so special. But the first day of the year is the most special of it all, when festivities are its best and everyone is in their highest spirits. 

So, what makes the first day of the year so special? If we were to look at it this way, it is just like any other day of the year, what's so special about this day? Why is it being celebrated with such grandeur all over the world? The answer I believe lies deep down in our hearts. 'People are rational', say popular economists, however deep down people are emotional. People need reassurance; they need to be constantly told that everything is fine. When things are not fine, they need to be told that things will get better soon and that they have to keep their 'Hope' alive. I guess it is this very emotion of 'Hope' that makes every New Year's day so special. It brings along with it splendorous rays of hope - hope for a better tomorrow, hope for making a difference in our lives and in the lives of others, hope for making this world a better place. 

As a child, I used to look forward to gifts on New Year's. Growing up, I used to look forward to the holidays on New Year's. But after having blown out 29 candles on my birthday cake last year, I have moved on to something beyond gifts and holidays. This New Year, I look forward to something else. Like everyone I also hope for somethings very special.

This New Year, I hope that, 

# 1: I can forget and forgive more easily
# 2: I can help someone without expecting anything in return
# 3: I can travel to a place that I have never been to before
# 4: I can be more thankful for and content with what I have 
# 5: I can make a difference in a person's life through my work
# 6: I can learn something new
# 7: I can read as many books as I can possibly read 
# 8: I can give my parents at least one of the many things that they had sacrificed to bring me up
# 9: I can love everyone around me and never hate anyone
# 10: I can tell the people around me how special they are

Here is wishing everyone a very Happy New Year! May 2016 make a positive difference in all our lives, May there be happiness and peace all throughout the world. I would like to conclude with one of my favorite slokas which I learnt, courtesy my Alma Mater - 

"Lokah samastah sukhino bhavantu" (May all the people in the world be happy). 

Once Upon A Time In Thrissur - Part 2

It has been a year since I left the city, but Thrissur is still very much alive in my memories. The second and last part in the series on the city that will always have a special place in my heart.

A couple of months in the city, and the city had slowly begun to grow on me. I had started to like the sights and the sounds of the city and its people. For someone like me, who had spent a major part of her life in a city like Cochin, Thrissur was a totally different world altogether. The first thing that any person who comes to Thrissur would fall in love with is the Vadakkumnathan Temple – situated right in the heart of the city, the sprawling structure of the temple has majesty and heritage written all over it. One cannot but look and marvel at the beauty of the temple, every time one passes by it, which is almost all the time that one heads out to the city, thanks to the way the city has been built, around the temple. Other temples in the city like the 'Paramekkavu Bagavathi Temple' and the 'Thiruvambadi Sree Krishna Temple' are also a visual treat in themselves.  

How can one talk about Thrissur and not mention the famous “Thrissur dialect”, which has always got Keralites interested, as can be seen by the popularity of movies where top actors in Malayalam films have portrayed characters who hailed from Thrissur; from Mohanlal in ‘Thoovanathumpikal’ to Prithviraj in ‘Indian Rupee’ to Mammooty in ‘Pranchiyettan and the Saint’ to Jayasurya in ‘Punlyalan Agarbathis’, and the recent ‘Vasootan’ or Kunchako Boban in ‘Jamna Pyaari’, the characters they portrayed in the movies and their dialogues continue to bring a smile on our faces every time we watch those movies. There were times, when I had picked up my phone to scold someone, but ended up laughing and saying “Its O.K” after listening to their side of the story, thanks to the ‘Thrissur dialect’. I would not admit it, but I had actually started to like the ‘Enthutta’s, ‘Vayo’s, ‘Rupiya’ and the likes that found their way into my conversations with the Thrissur Gedis :-) 

Thrissur is also a haven for foodies, with so many good restaurants in the city that serve mouth watering food. Being a vegetarian can be tough when it comes to finding quality vegetarian restaurants in any city. However Thrissur doesn’t disappoint vegetarians even, what with two equally amazing vegetarian restaurants – ‘Hotel Pathans’ and ‘Hotel Bharath’, and what can I say about the food served in both the hotels, well, it’s nothing short of ‘Heavenly’.  

But the best thing about Thrissur is its people, so warm, so good at heart, always ready to help one another. One of the best things about the people of Thrissur in my opinion is their unity. Talk about “Intolerance” to someone from Thrissur, they would probably laugh. Onam, Vishu, Ramzan or Christmas – every festival is celebrated with the same spirit by the people of Thrissur. The very famous ‘Thrissur Pooram’ is a classic example of Thrissur’s unity. Where else can you imagine a temple festival been celebrated with equal vigor by a Hindu, a Muslim and a Christian other than in the city of Thrissivaperur.

Studies and work have taken me to different states and cities in India, and each city that I have been in, has left an everlasting impression on my mind. However the city of Thrissur is very special to me and is very close to my heart as the city and its people have transformed me in more ways than one; they made me a better person – both personally and professionally.

Thank you Thrissur for those wonderful memories, for those lessons in humanity and management :-), and for accepting me as your own. The beautiful temples, the 'My Idea' team, my showrooms, the team at the Thrissur Zonal Office of Idea, the angelic elderly couple who were my landlords, the heavenly ‘Masala Dosa’ at the Bharath Hotel – I will miss all of this, but I know that the city and the people of Thrissur will continue to live on in my memories, forever. 

365 Days of Valentine's

Off-late I have taken an aversion to news in any form, be it newspapers, TV news channels or the latest to join the bandwagon - 'social media'. There was a time when I used to begin my day with the newspaper in one hand and a cup of hot tea in the other, going through all the articles, with great interest. Nowadays the very thought of beginning a day with the newspaper dreads me, what with news about violence - murders, crimes, assaults; news about conflicts - between nations, between states, between political parties; news about death - due to accidents, diseases and so on filling up almost all pages of the newspaper. I could avoid all news totally and stay undisturbed by the sad state of affairs of the world around me, but I know it won't be long till the bubble burst. There is no point in denying that we live in very difficult times, the sooner we accept it, the better it is to come to terms with reality.

There are times, when I wish I could just travel back in time some 20 years; life as I knew it then was so peaceful and devoid of complexities. I sometimes wonder as to what has changed over all these years - is it me or is it the world around me, or both? Every day, back then, was a celebration - of life, of love, of togetherness. Cut to some 20 years later, every day feels like a war. It is like you are fighting a battle for existence every day; you consider yourselves lucky if you get back home, safe and sound at the end of the day.

The daily battle begins from the moment we wake up. Suppose you woke up late one day and are running late for office, or your breakfast is not ready on time, or you are not able to find your dress or your vehicle's keys, everyone who comes your way that day has to face your wrath. The first victims of the battle - your family. Quarrels, arguments ensue and somehow you manage to step out of home. The next part of the battle begins; the battleground is the road, and the victims - everyone who is on the road. Pedestrians blame the people on bikes, people on bikes blame people who ride cars; people who ride cars, blame people who ride buses, and the bus drivers - they blame other bus drivers, car drivers, bike riders, pedestrians, and basically anyone who dares come in their way! The battle gets ugly at traffic signals, where the moment the signal goes from red to green, there is this mad rush of vehicles to get past the signal (as if it were a matter of life or death!) and the honking and cursing the drivers of the vehicles in front as if they were going to stay there for eternity. In the hurry to reach their destinations, people conveniently turn a blind eye to traffic rules and often to other people on the road. Navigating their way through the crazy crowd, when one finally manages to reach office, a different kind of enemy awaits them there! The battlefield is office and the victims, well every one in the office. 

If "Survival of the fittest" was what Charles Darwin said about natural selection, it is "Survival of the smartest" that works at the workplace. Each day in a highly competitive workplace is a battle to outsmart the smartest. Add tight schedules, deadlines, targets, reviews, dynamic business situations and peer pressure to a day and getting through the day seems nothing less than fighting a war. After a tiring day at office, when you ride back home, the second part of the battle on road begins. You get back home, and the second part of the battle at home begins. This goes on until you go to sleep. It's the same old story, the next day, the battle goes on and on.

If one were to do a root cause analysis of what has changed over the years, I feel that the root cause would be the lack of love - love for oneself and love for the people around ourselves. Somewhere in this fast paced life of ours, we have forgot this simple yet powerful feeling that is love. From childhood, we are taught that the mantra for surviving in this world is "Compete or die". Children are not taught to love each other or help others in need, instead they are taught how to get good grades in exams. Of what use is a good grade or all the education in the world to a person who does not use it for the good of the people around him! In our effort to make children toppers and rank holders, we forget to teach them lessons in humanity. 

All we need today to make our lives better is a little bit of love - love for ourselves and our family, love for all the people on the road, love for all the colleagues at work, basically love for everyone around us. A little bit of love for your family will go a long way in avoiding those battles at home. You show a little bit of love and consideration for the people and other vehicles on the road, and our roads would not be deadly battlegrounds any more. Reaching your destination late will not hurt as much as the remorse of having hurt someone in the process of reaching your destination. If you keep aside all the thoughts of competition from your mind, you might actually start appreciating your colleagues more and start liking your work more. Learn to love yourself and take good care of yourself, because unless you love yourself you cannot love anyone else. 

The key to making this world a better place lies in this famous quote by Auden - "Love each other or perish". Each day of our life should be a celebration of love. All we need is 365 days of Valentine's.

Joy On Four Wheels

I remember my first lesson in marketing - "Marketing is all about identifying customer's needs", said my professor. "Successful are those companies who can identify their customer's needs and create products that can satisfy those needs." Well, it looks like car manufacturer Maruti-Suzuki has got its marketing absolutely perfect, when it comes to the new Alto K10, which it launched in the month of November, 2014. The model's automatic variant, is like a dream-come-true for the common man who wanted the 'ease of driving' that an automatic offered, but who thought that automatics were way out of his league because of the heavy price-tags attached to them. The new Alto K10 is by far the lowest priced automatic car in India. 

Gone are the days when a middle-class Indian family could only dream of owning an automatic car. Owning an automatic car for well within Rs. 5L, is now a reality, thanks to India's most loved car manufacturer - Maruti-Suzuki and the latest offering in its K10 series. The new Alto K10 is the long awaited answer to the prayers of several Indians - ranging from youngsters to adults to senior citizens, who had difficulty in driving a manual car, but who could not afford an automatic one. Be it beginners who are not very comfortable with the whole clutch-and-gear scheme of things, or ladies who have trouble parking their cars, or senior citizens who feel tired after all that gear-changing during a drive, everyone would simply love driving the new Alto K10 automatic. It is the perfect car for beginners, ladies and senior citizens, as it very easy to drive around. The car is a boon for office-goers in the city; it does not wear you out like a manual does in the stop-start traffic with the frequent gear-shifting. Now this is one car that would make one feel good even while one is stuck in traffic :-) Driving in traffic could not get easier than this! 

The new Alto K10 would get to you even before you hop on to the driver's seat. The car has "cute" written all over it - be it the swept-back headlamps, or the grill with the "S" logo, or the beautifully designed "K10" sign at the rear, everything adds a touch of beauty to the car. It is undoubtedly one of the most good-looking cars in its segment. The interiors of the car are also very attractive, courtesy the dual-tone finish and a very pretty instrument cluster, which gives the interiors a very up-market feel. There is plenty of leg space in the front and it is not bad at the rear either, with the scooped front seats offering much more leg space for the rear passengers than can be found in the car's old variants. The cabin is very airy and the dual-tone colors make the cabin look very bright and lively. One would definitely not mind a long-drive on this one for sure!

Picture courtesy: Official Facebook page of Alto K10

Looks and ease-of-driving apart, if there is one thing that would endear the car to the price-conscious Indian, it would be the car's fuel efficiency. Unlike other automatic cars, this small wonder from the Maruti-Suzuki stable does not burn a hole in your pocket. It is high on fuel-efficiency and will definitely have you taking your car out more often. 

It has only been a couple of months since a new Alto K10 automatic became a part of our motor-vehicle family, and it has already conquered the hearts of everyone in my family. It has also become my father's new-found-love. Earlier, we used to go for outings only occasionally, and when we did, we used to go late in the night, to avoid the city-traffic in the evenings; but not anymore. With the new Alto K10 coming into our lives, things have changed; we go out more often and we do not postpone outings to late nights, driving through traffic is no longer a concern for us. We even made a long-distance trip in our car, and we enjoyed the ride thoroughly. My father just loves driving the car and he is always ready to go driving in the car at the drop of a hat. Of-late, I have had some of the best times with my family during these rides in our new car. The tagline of the car says "Chase Life", which I feel is perfect for the car. Life is beautiful and we need to make sure that we do not miss any moment of it, especially the moments that we spend with the people who mean the world to us, like our family and friends. Our new Alto K10 has been a part of some of the best moments of our lives. It has helped my father, who is a senior citizen, overcome his fear of driving and chase those pleasures of life, which he never thought he could enjoy, like driving from one city to another and back all on his own, driving through the old roads in the neighborhood where he grew up, where he used to walk to go to his school, or driving comfortably through rush-hour traffic. It has helped me and my parents chase that joy of a quality time together, while enjoying the sites and the sounds of the city that all of three of us love - the city of Cochin. It has helped us chase the small joys in life, like sitting in the beach at Fort Kochi and watching the sun slowly set in the horizon, and having dinner at our favorite restaurant in the city, and seeing the Christmas festivities in Fort Kochi at night. 

Thank you Maruti-Suzuki for having understood the needs of the Indian consumer all these years and thank you for giving us the likes of the 800, the Zen, the Alto, and the latest Alto K10. You have given us a wonderful car in the new Alto K10. If I were to describe the latest addition to the K10 family in four words, this is how I would put it - "Joy On Four Wheels".  

    

Once Upon A Time in Thrissur - Part I

Year 2015 is here. As I say goodbye to the year 2014, it’s also time for me to bid farewell to a city that had been my home for the past one and a half years - Thrissur. This blog series is a tribute to everyone whom I had a chance of interacting with, during my stay in the city and especially to those who have left behind an indelible mark in my life with their warmth, love and affection. First part of the two-part series. 

The town had been painted yellow, thanks to the “Pulis” on the streets. The “Men-In-Yellow” had thronged the streets of Thrissur in huge numbers. “Pulikali”, an inseparable part of Kerala’s Onam festivities, is a treat to watch, especially when you are in the “Land of Vadukkumnathan” Thrissur, where it is celebrated with so much vigor.It was my first day in Thrissur, and seeing the celebrations around, I couldn’t help but say, “Wow! Now that was an awesome welcome!” It was the September of 2013. Little did I know back then, that it was only the beginning, of one of the most wonderful phases of my life. This is the story of how I came, I saw and fell irrevocably in love with the cultural capital of Kerala – Thrissur.

I have always been a believer of destiny. I believe I was destined to be in Thrissur, as my relocating to Thrissur, was not by choice, but by chance. I was pretty much confident, when I joined my company after my higher studies, that I would get a posting in my hometown itself. However to my surprise, nothing like that happened, and there I was on my way to Thrissur, three months into joining the organization, hopes of being with my family, all shattered by a mail from the H.R department informing me to join the Zonal Office of the company at Thrissur. The hardships of the being a novice at the job, coupled with the feeling of being lonely in a new city, made my initial days in the city worse than my worst nightmare. For the first time in my life, I found myself giving orders to others, many who were more senior to me in age and experience. Honestly, it was the strangest of feelings; I was not sure if I would be making a total fool of myself infront of them by saying something totally stupid, or whether they would snap back at me if I asked them to do something by saying “Who are you to tell me what to do?” I am sure most M.B.A’s who get into a managerial role, straight out of college, could relate to this. There were many times, when I wondered why and for what on earth I left my job as a software engineer with an I.T firm for an M.B.A degree! I used to think, "Writing programs was so much better than managing people; the worst that could happen with a program was that it would throw me an error!". Well, I was to get the answers to my questions shortly; I just had to hang in there, till the time was right. 

Struggling, stumbling, falling (many times) I made it through the rest of the year. And then came year 2014, bringing along with it, the winds of change – recognition and appreciation at work, new friends, new experiences, and lots of memorable moments. 

To be continued..

The 30/31 Way Of Life

Dedicated to all the employed people!

Almost a year back, I happened to watch the trailer of a movie and it had me in splits. The movie was called “Go, Goa, Gone” and the trailer had this very catchy song in it. The best part of the song was it’s lyrics. The song went something like “…Bloody Khooni Monday Tu Aya Khoon Choosne”. The lyricist seemed to have struck the right chord with the ‘office going’ junta (It could very well be the anthem for the lot, had there been one!). I wonder if he had consulted some of his ‘office going’ buddies before penning the lyrics, or had he also been one?  

Monday, for most employees, is the most dreaded day in a week. Everyone has their own reasons, for why they hate Mondays. Many would not have got enough of their weekend, when the alarm goes off on a Monday morning, signaling the start of yet another week at work. For many who had escaped to the comforts of their homes for the weekend, it is the thought of leaving their home and their loved ones behind, and of course, the heavenly home food, which troubles them the most. And when one actually manages to drag their feet into office on a Monday, what awaits us? One of our greatest nemesis, which goes by the name “Weekly Review” – An analysis of what went well the previous week, what did not go very well the previous week, and what needs to be done in the coming week so that everything goes well. (Well, thank God for the movie ‘3 Idiots’ and the ‘All is Well’ mantra, saying that many times during these reviews helps!) Before we know it, the review is over, everyone is back at their workstations, ready to be taken away into a magical world of data created by Microsoft, thanks to the software giant’s Office applications. The phone starts buzzing, calls pour in, you answer some, and you miss some. The mails start popping up, you answer some, forward some, ignore some. Lunch breaks always get postponed; you consider yourself lucky if you get a chance to have lunch on time. Before you know it, it is evening, and you realize, you have hardly struck one or two items off your ‘To-Do’ list. Well, that’s a feeling akin to the one that students get during their exams in school and college days, when the bell rings before the last thirty minutes of the exam, and they realize they have not even finished answering half of the question paper. Some work late into the night and get their backlogs cleared, some leave it for the next day, in the hope that, the next day would be different. It is the same old story the next day – the calls, the e-mails and Microsoft, and the ever-expanding ‘To-Do’ list. We manage to get ourselves through the five days of the week, and we are rewarded with a much needed break in the form of a Saturday and Sunday. Even before we know it, the “Khoony Monday” is back!

Well one might ask, if Mondays are so deadly, work is so tiresome, why do employees work? Why can’t they just call it quits? Well, the answer differs from person to person. Had I been asked the reason why I work, despite of the fact that I dread Mondays, or for that matter any working day in a week, I would say that, to me my job is not just a job, it’s a way of life. I like to call it the “30/31” way of life. My job is what defines me, it is what makes me feel good about myself, it is what gives me the freedom to live life on my own terms, it is what helps me take very good care of my family. I have heard married women say, “I do not need a job, as my husband earns a pretty good salary every month”. I have heard men say, “I quit my job because it was not what I am passionate about. I will find one sooner or later”. Are they right? Maybe yes, but, I like to believe that there is more to a job than the salary you earn or the work you do. A job gives you opportunities to interact with different kinds of people. It helps you learn how to manage relationships, learn how to work together to achieve results, learn how best to react to different situations, learn new skills while developing your existing skills. How often have you found yourself searching for topics to talk about when you meet a friend of yours who is a homemaker or a friend who is not working? Not everyone gets a job that one is passionate about, but is quitting the only way out. The true heroes are the ones who have it in them to do their job with utmost sincerity, even if the job is not of their liking, but at the same time, keep searching for what one is truly passionate about. 

I talked about a lot of things about work, but I saved the best part for the last. The best thing about being employed (no prizes for guessing this) is that last day of the month. I have seen the most morose of the morose people at work too all smiles on this particular day of the month. Money, is an important factor, but it is not the only thing that makes one happy on the 30^th or the 31^st of a month. It brings along with it a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction that can drown away the weariness of all the “Freaking” Fridays and the dreadfulness of all the “Khoony” Mondays of the month. It makes you feel so good about yourself, that you can even shout it out from the rooftops and tell the whole world that you feel good, sorry great! 

As I sign off this blog, the last day of the month is here. I have already made plans to take my parents out for a dinner at our favorite restaurant and then for a walk alongside the backwaters at Marine Drive (love you Cochin for Marine Drive and for the back waters!). The main purpose is to spend quality time with them, but there is also a very selfish intention behind it. It is also my way of silently saying “Sorry” for all the times I told my mother, “Amma, I am busy, I will talk to you later” or my father, “I have told you not to call me during office hours” or “I will call you back” and then forget to call them back due to the work at office. The “30/31” way of life is not without its own set of demerits, you see. However I am sure my parents will understand, because they too have led the “30/31” way of life once. 

Cheers to the last day of the month! Celebrate it with your family and friends and make your favorite day of the month, your family's and friends' favorite too!